12/28/05, 8 p.m. I got home to find Larry lying on the sofa, supposedly suffering from "flu" symptoms. Oh, yes, he's soooooooooo sick. When I think back on this, it seems to be a fairly frequent condition on his first day off after a week at work. He really HAS worked so hard for six-seven days -- but then that last night when he knows he's off the next day, he ties one on -- as I heard the expression today "to' up from the flo' up" (torn up from the floor up) -- so he needs to recover the next day from his overindulgence from the previous evening. So he has the excuse of being "sick" so nothing gets accomplished on his day off and he supposedly engenders sympathy in spite of his reprehensible behavior the night before. So, I think, in his mind, he is always excused from misbehavior because he's "sick." HOW MANY alcoholics use that? How many co-dependent spouses COVER for their spouses with that excuse? And when I suggested this evening that his "flu" symptoms might simply be a hangover from his condition the previous evening, he then denies being in any "condition," at which time I offer to show him a video of himself from the previous evening, and then he goes into attack mode of "you'll do anything to embarrass me," to which I retort, "I don't need to embarrass you -- you can do it all by yourself. And if you weren't doing anything wrong, why would a video embarrass you?" No answer to that, of course. Why do I bother to argue with a drunk? AM I the enabler, according to AA rules?